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How to Stop Hating People and Set Yourself Free

Alright, I have something I want to get off my chest about the way people treat each other.

Terribly. Really bad. We hate each other, but we’re all here living a life we never asked for, trying to make the best of it. We’re all trying our hardest.

So my question to you is…

 

Who cares?

No no no, just hear me out.

 

To some people, God is dead. To others, God is everything. It’s perception that creates those peoples’ reality.

Some people only look out for others. Other people only look out for themselvesThis is their perception creating their reality.

Some cultures celebrate marijuana. Others condone it. Perception.

Some people eat cows. Some people worship them. (Same with pigs, dogs, and others). ONE MORE TIME FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK : PERCEPTION.

Some people are rude. Others? Sweet as pie.

 

I think you get what I’m saying… But let me break it down real quick:

1. We’re all different.

 

Hand in hand with this, are…

2. Your perception creates your reality.

3. Other’s perceptions create their realities.

 

And, ahem?…

4. Who are we to decide whether someone else is living a lie or not?

 

And I’m sure you’ve either heard this before or questioned it yourself – if we’re all different, doesn’t that really make us all the same?

*insert blown mind here*

This post is mostly about why you shouldn’t stay mad at someone for that long. Before long, realize that they’re a human just like you am, and their different than you are, but not by much.

People will and always will do differently things than you would. They’ll see things in a different light, take different opportunities and toss others out – they might try to hurt you when all you’ve done is good for them, or maybe they feel insecure so they try to bat you down, or maybe they try to back you into a corner… but in the end, that’s just because they’re different people with qualities, values, and morals completely unlike yours.

It doesn’t mean they’re wrong, in the grand scheme of things, just because they may be wrong to you. or me. or the next guy.

It’s all based on our perceptions, and that’s totally okay. You can ignore this WHOLE post if you want – or you can complain or whatever else you will. That’s your right fam, so go at it. Express yourself.

Naysayers will tell me that’s a stupid way to live and an easy way to set myself up for failure – but it’s not. It helps keep me happy when my life is the least saturated with hate possible. 

You don’t need to hate people if you disagree with them. I don’t know where that came from. There are better ways to protect yourself other than shutting people out and hating them.

Just understand why you disagree with them (most likely because their values don’t align with yours) and adjust how you moderate yourself accordingly.

For example, a friend betrayed me. They went behind my back and tried to lie for leverage over me.

I was really pissed at first, but then I realized – they were just trying to help themselves. In another life, maybe I was that way too. Hell, I even kind of GET it, even though I would have done it totally differently.

So anyway, I stopped being mad, and instead just chose to adjust my behavior around that person. You can’t change someone, and there’s no use in hating someone just for the fact that they are different than you in small ways.

So I stopped telling this person things that they could maybe use against me, or throw me under the bus for, etc, etc, etc. And I let the hate go, because it eats me alive inside.

Seriously, hating isn’t cool. Or fun. OR COOL. 

It won’t do anything but drain you – so seek to understand, not to hate.

It’s cool to talk about what you love, to explore your passions and feel your thunder. You know what YOU’RE here to do, not what others are here to do.

You know what YOU’RE here to be, not him, or her, or the next guy.

We’re all different.

We act differently. We celebrate, dance, sing, vibe, live, shuck and jive all differently.

There is no one exactly like you on this planet, which in a way, makes you just like everyone on this planet.

Sometimes the one thing we can always rely on is the fact that, whether we like it or not, we aren’t loners. We’re pack animals. We gather in numbers.

It’s safer that way, and happier, too – and whether you’d like to admit it or not…

We need each other.

So swallow your pride, your shame, and all the stuff that leaves you feeling cold and bitter, and pick up something that will generate more happiness and meaning in your life – positive vibes.

Let the hate go. Even when people hate you or shun you or anything of that sort – your own opinion is what matters because your perception creates your reality.

And others have the right to create their own.

So live and let live. Be and let be,

Cause we’re just tiny ants out in space on a giant ball,” – Dirty Heads

 

x

 

 

 

Photo by Stephen Leonardi on Unsplash

 

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