I’m not tooting my own horn or anything.
But I am exceptionally happy.
Everywhere I go, life seems to glitter around me (even when there are people involved who aren’t the biggest fan).
I’ve been told I “really bring something to the table” from coworkers. I’ve been told that someone would keep me as an employee because of my attitude. I’ve been told to keep my smile because it’s warming.
These are the best compliments I could ever receive – because when someone feels those types of things, especially enough to say it, it means I have had a positive influence on their life and maybe they really needed a breath of fresh air, kindness, and upbeat positivity to keep them going.
The fact that I can help people in that sort of way, by sending out positive vibes and energy, is the greatest gift the Universe has given me.
Here are five ways you can send off these good vibes, too.
- Express yourself freely, but question what you feel. There should be no reason for you to hold back how you feel – as long as you express yourself in a healthy way – by conversating, writing, running, drawing, creating, cooking… However you feel suits you. When you feel something, ask yourself why you feel the way you do – this will help you uncover your values and release the mask that you’ve had over yourself. It’s always nice to know yourself. Also, if you are constantly faking your happiness, you will never vibe with your real, inner happiness. People will pick up on it. So live and let be, and feel and let free. 🙂
- Grow, change, and don’t be afraid to be wrong. This is so important because growth is life. I’ve said it a hundred times and I will never stop. It’s okay to be wrong, because this will help you grow and learn. Isn’t that a beautiful thing? I’m fine with being wrong. It’s not scary. It doesn’t make you a bad person. You can read my article on mistakes, here.
- Exercise regularly. I’m telling you, this works. Not just because I’m passionate about it, but because I wasn’t always. Before I found the gym, I was lethargic, depressed and anxious. Although it might not cure these things for everyone, it certainly cleared it up quite a bit for my 14 year old angsty self. You don’t have to go every day for three hours a day… Start small, with long walks with a friend or going to yoga classes or hitting the gym two, three days a week. You’ll see a difference, I promise.
- Maintain an open mind. Get out there and try new things. My boyfriend tried Hot Yoga the other day. Loved it. He tried corned beef hash about a year ago – loves it now. Same with pumpkin bread. This isn’t just about trying new things, though… It’s also about admitting when you might be wrong or when you may have hurt someone, and finding a way to make things better. Sometimes it’s about freeing yourself of prejudice, or listening to a podcast about a religion you don’t necessarily believe in. When you open your mind – your beliefs are not threatened unless you make yourself feel that way, in which case, your mind will close right back up. Maintaining an open mind will help you be empathetic and create higher quality human connection through understanding… So learn what you can, try what you can, and thrive.
- My friendships are few, but they are very very high quality. I don’t even really get to see my friends. It sucks, but we’re doing different things and supporting each other from afar always. I always feel my friendships within me – it’s like a warmth that doesn’t dissipate. And when we hang out again, finally, it whirls up in flames. Make sure to find people who don’t drain you. Stay away from those who only want to get shitfaced every weekend and pick fights and get in trouble with the cops. There’s enough in life to be stressed about… Your friends shouldn’t give you more.
There’s no real equation to being happy. Often, you just have to settle within yourself for the present moment and ask yourself, “what, in this moment, isn’t exactly perfect?” because there are many things we think we need, when really – our lives are beautiful as is.
As they say, happiness is not a destination.
On the mountain they call Happiness, there is no peak. It just keeps going up and up and up. Sometimes it levels out, sometimes it’s really rocky. Other times, you’ll come across blistering heat from the sun, and just as you feel you’re at your end, an oasis of green water and natural waterslides will appear ride before your eyes. And you will drink, and swim, and be merry.
Just make sure you have good company along the way.