First of all, when you choose to live a life revolving around the human experience as the center of your Universe, you make the decision to feel everything for what it is.
Look at it like this – the Human Experience is the sun in your little Universe. Your most important experiences are the cores of your planets (there can be as many or as few as pertains to your liking). All the little nuances that come with your experiences of choice (emotions, consequences, chains of events, etc), they revolve around the center of your planets and make up their mass. All the “blank” space in between, that’s all the stuff you don’t understand, and you don’t really have to.
You choose to let sadness sink into your bones and fill your nose.
You choose to pay attention to the weight of your body as it is supported by the places you sit, or how it supports itself. Your body is tired by the end of the day, especially your knees, your back, and your neck.
You choose to feel breath fill your lungs. You choose to wiggle your toes in your shoes and clench your fists and happiness for the simple sake of being.
You choose to let go of your resistance and let what may, be, while still fighting for what you want and what you believe.
You choose to let yourself feel everything you were meant to feel, without reservation or suppression (which, let’s be real, can totally mess anyone up).
When you take this giant leap (not so giant, I mean… We’re humans, how hard should it be to embrace the human experience?), you will notice that the intangible things are the ones that will beat you down to your knees. Pain, punishment, reservation, exhaustion, rejection, and failure. With putting yourself out there and vowing to experience it all, hurt will ensue. And you will learn to love it.
You will also notice that the intangible things will become the most important – things like love, compassion, grace, kindness, and gentleness. In the shadows of all of the suffering you have ever encountered, these things will glow much more brightly than they ever have.
The trick here is to let it happen and feel it. Just like the rest, let it sink into your bones.
Just don’t let it consume you or ruin your life. You can experience something without letting it control you. Pain is an experience, and the best way is to feel it, is just like anything else: as deeply as you wish or don’t. It’s the same with love. This is all up to you.
Remember, when I say you, I mean the part of you that feels without thoughts or words. Listen to the voiceless within you, because it will speak to you without heavy stereotypes, learned rules, discrimination, or criticism.
Here’s why you should give it a whirl.
- It keeps things interesting, no matter where you are or what you do. Everything will become colorful. Today I think I said something along the lines of “Man, it’s so cool that we have thumbs. Like. We have THUMBS,” and I genuinely felt full and whole at the fact that we have thumbs. I consider things like this all the time. How strange it is that we are all meat and bones and flesh and blood, but for some reason we still fight. How strange it is that we are all meat and bones and flesh and blood, but we all love. How strange that there is electricity in our bodies that moves our limbs. How strange it is, to be.
- There is movement. There is activity and stimulation. When you are constantly considering your surroundings and how amazing everything really is, that we are, and that we can be whatever we so choose – seriously, this shit called life is so weird and incredible – we are more apt to put ourselves out there for the simple reason that we can.
- There is silence. There is rest and recovery. Part of being human is taking R&R and understanding that recovery is important to our bodies in our minds. If we don’t sleep, for example, we go mad. So you will experience silence, and procrastination (which is fine, especially if it’s useful procrastination), and you will be better prepped to grow come your next adventure.
- Growth ensues. Since we put ourselves out there more and become more confident in our abilities to live happily regardless of the emotions that run through us, we can allow ourselves to grow further and further. This will be so for work, love, spirituality, fitness, art, creativity, and pretty much anything else your mind can conjure up.
- You will be happy, even when you are not. This is one of life’s greatest paradoxes – if you can find pride and bliss in everything you feel, you will be able to feel everything without exhausting yourself to the point of breaking. You will be able to dip your toes in ponds of joy, and misery, and anger and ferocity, maybe all at once. And you will be able to handle and make sense of it, even.
The best thing about this approach to life is that it is entirely malleable to the type of lifestyle you want to live and the things you want to experience in this human life.
Maybe you don’t want to overcome your fear of heights. That’s perfectly fine, then, just choose to embrace your fear.
You don’t have to conquer the whole world, and you don’t have to conquer yourself. The one rule is to experience everything you wish to – and the inevitable things you have to experience, do so with grace and thoughtfulness.
This is why I live so happily, even when I’m not, but am still changing and growing.
My most important experiences are love and growth – which means I totally, 100% accept the challenges that lie ahead – in all the pain, emotion, success, and struggle I will endure.
Choose yours, and let’s roll.
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